Mother’s Day Reflection

I always had a sentimental regard for my mother and maternal and paternal grandmother, however not until I became a mother of three vibrant little girls did I fully experience the most incredible sense of joyful sacrifice.  We are all familiar with the act of sacrificing some thing, some situation or something tangible and how it makes me feel bereaved and even slightly depressed.  For me the sacrifices I made to become a mother were true blessings in disguise.  I was raised with education being a key element to success and a rewarding career.  That was my aspiration early in my childhood and I know my parents had sincere intentions.  We rarely talked about dating let alone finding love.  It seemed to be a scary topic to discuss dating with my parents so I never did.  I just remember being told to focus and stay in track, I never even thought to veer off track. So fast forward to college, a unhealthy relationship, then landing a great position before I graduated ASU and then graduating, I found I had achieved my life goals! Suddenly, I had completed my B.S. and was working in corporate America.  So was this it?!  I felt something was missing.

Post Motherhood

Fast forward 2 years later and I meet a timid, soft-spoken, 6’5 handsome fellow that opened up my eyes to what I had been missing.  With all the hustle and bustles of chasing after that college degree and climbing up that ladder of never ending workforce, I hadn’t thought about my role as a wife and mother or whether finding Mr Right-for-me was possible.  Yet it was!  We both knew how central family was on this journey we lived.  We got married and soonafter our first was born.

Motherhood

Her I am now a mother of 3, a family of 5.  Am I telling you being a mother is cakewalk? No. Am I telling you to go out there and get married and have kids?  No.  What I am telling you is that Motherhood changes your WHOLE being.  For me even with those difficult days where you seemed to have done nothing but play with your children, it’s worth it!  It’s worth every second!  Motherhood comes with frustration, impatience and exhaustion.  Just ask any mom, working or stay-at-home (I have done both).  Yet the moments you realize, “What is my purpose in this life?”  This is not a question I can answer for you but for me, I have no question why Motherhood chose me.

Support One Another

In this modern age, we must all let go of the divide between us.  Yes we all are in different situations, but as mother’s we need to realize that supporting one another in this ride is what enables each other to grow and become our best possible self.  Our world needs kindness, we need compassion and great examples for charity. Mothers are the epitome of selflessness. For those who are not mothers, think about how your mother or a motherly figure has shaped your life.  We as women, have endless opportunities to reach out and help someone in need.  May we show appreciation for our mothers, grandmothers and women in our lives.  Christlike love can allow us to love unconditionally and spread positivity and kindness to those who need it.  I have a testimony that motherhood has truly brought out a kind of unconditional love that has no boundaries.  The moment a child says “I love you” is the moment you realize what life is about.  Mothers need to unite and lift each other up.  Many mothers rarely get anytime to themselves.

Here are some ways to help a fellow mother:

  1. Visit with them – Sometimes adult conversation is a great change of pace
  2. Offer to babysit for a few hours
  3. Bring a gift for just mom
  4. Offer to come over and help around the house (chores are never ending)
  5. Be kind and offer compliments

As Mother’s Day is approaching let us remind ourselves all the sacrifices mothers make and appreciate them for all they do for us.

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Motherhood

MothersMotherhood has been the utmost refining life change I could’ve asked for.  As I reflect back on the moment I became a mother for the first time, I realized that my purpose in this life was ever more essential.  Our eldest daughter, Ella was born on Father’s Day.  Seeing the silent joy as my husband laid eyes on our beautiful daughter gave me such a feeling of overwhelming joy and gratitude.  He reminded me that there is more to this life then climbing up the corporate ladder and chasing after the never ending dream of a extravagant lifestyle.  Becoming a mother, a nurturer, a soother, and a teacher is the most humbling journey I have been honored with.  Each day comes with the unexpected and oh how my patience has been tested and grown.  As my husband and I commenced into parenthood, I ask myself each day, how will I better myself as a mother and wife?  In our household someone is always singing, whether it be a nursing rhyme, a Frozen sing-along, a made-up song =P (I enjoy these very much)  or most of the time an LDS children’s song.  One night both our eldest age 3 and age 4 were were singing “I am a Child of God” and oh how sweet and yet powerful this song is to me.  We are all the Lord’s children and we all have the free agency to choose and listen to our hearts and live a virtuous life.  I have no doubt that my role as a mother is essential for my personal and spiritual growth.  This has enabled me to fine tune my time-management, organizational skills and most importantly my ability to nurture and love unconditionally.  Before becoming a mother, I seemed to have a long to-do list of what’s next.  I love this LDS Living article “Mothering One Moment at a Time” it speaks to me and reminded me that although it’s nice to get to “that point,” I must not get ahead of myself (I tend to do that a lot), I must enjoy and cherish the “now.”   Those “little” moments of playing that game or reading a book to your little seedlings make a WORLD of a difference to them.  May we all learn to enjoy the little moments whenever possible.  May we teach our children to be righteous, virtuous and reverent in all they may do.  Mothering is vital to the future success of their offspring. The family proclamation  says that “successful marriage and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.  I am so proud to be a member of The Church of Jesus Christ I am so glad I decided to start this blog, it has been quite exhilarating and humbling at the same time.

Here are ways  to keep your day GREAT:

  1. Be of good CHEER
  2. Work hard
  3. Go to bed early and wake up early (I am working on the first part :|)
  4. Prepare yourself (write ideas down, make lists,organize your thoughts)
  5. Love & encourage and support one another ❤

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What are some ways that help you become a better mother?  If you are not a mother yet, what do you look forward to when becoming a mother?