I always had a sentimental regard for my mother and maternal and paternal grandmother, however not until I became a mother of three vibrant little girls did I fully experience the most incredible sense of joyful sacrifice. We are all familiar with the act of sacrificing some thing, some situation or something tangible and how it makes me feel bereaved and even slightly depressed. For me the sacrifices I made to become a mother were true blessings in disguise. I was raised with education being a key element to success and a rewarding career. That was my aspiration early in my childhood and I know my parents had sincere intentions. We rarely talked about dating let alone finding love. It seemed to be a scary topic to discuss dating with my parents so I never did. I just remember being told to focus and stay in track, I never even thought to veer off track. So fast forward to college, a unhealthy relationship, then landing a great position before I graduated ASU and then graduating, I found I had achieved my life goals! Suddenly, I had completed my B.S. and was working in corporate America. So was this it?! I felt something was missing.
Fast forward 2 years later and I meet a timid, soft-spoken, 6’5 handsome fellow that opened up my eyes to what I had been missing. With all the hustle and bustles of chasing after that college degree and climbing up that ladder of never ending workforce, I hadn’t thought about my role as a wife and mother or whether finding Mr Right-for-me was possible. Yet it was! We both knew how central family was on this journey we lived. We got married and soonafter our first was born.
Her I am now a mother of 3, a family of 5. Am I telling you being a mother is cakewalk? No. Am I telling you to go out there and get married and have kids? No. What I am telling you is that Motherhood changes your WHOLE being. For me even with those difficult days where you seemed to have done nothing but play with your children, it’s worth it! It’s worth every second! Motherhood comes with frustration, impatience and exhaustion. Just ask any mom, working or stay-at-home (I have done both). Yet the moments you realize, “What is my purpose in this life?” This is not a question I can answer for you but for me, I have no question why Motherhood chose me.
Support One Another
In this modern age, we must all let go of the divide between us. Yes we all are in different situations, but as mother’s we need to realize that supporting one another in this ride is what enables each other to grow and become our best possible self. Our world needs kindness, we need compassion and great examples for charity. Mothers are the epitome of selflessness. For those who are not mothers, think about how your mother or a motherly figure has shaped your life. We as women, have endless opportunities to reach out and help someone in need. May we show appreciation for our mothers, grandmothers and women in our lives. Christlike love can allow us to love unconditionally and spread positivity and kindness to those who need it. I have a testimony that motherhood has truly brought out a kind of unconditional love that has no boundaries. The moment a child says “I love you” is the moment you realize what life is about. Mothers need to unite and lift each other up. Many mothers rarely get anytime to themselves.
Here are some ways to help a fellow mother:
- Visit with them – Sometimes adult conversation is a great change of pace
- Offer to babysit for a few hours
- Bring a gift for just mom
- Offer to come over and help around the house (chores are never ending)
- Be kind and offer compliments
As Mother’s Day is approaching let us remind ourselves all the sacrifices mothers make and appreciate them for all they do for us.